I fell in love with Sweetie McFartsalot
June 11, 2008 1:38 PM Subscribe
The SO and I are shacking up. We have a very good relationship and we love each other. However, there is a problem in the bedroom. No, not that
kind of problem. See, my girlfriend has really bad, eye-watering, stomach-turning gas.
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Yes, she's seen a doctor. Not because of the gas, but because she has stomach problems in general. She's been diagnosed with IBS which, as I understand it, means they don't really know what the problem is or how to treat it. Meanwhile, the gas continues. There are times at night when it wakes me up. Seriously, it's really bad, and it's beginning to affect my quality of sleep.
My question is in two parts:
1) How do I bring this up in a sensitive way? I'd like to explain that yes, I notice, and yes, it's kind of gross. My hope is that we can come up with some sort of work-around. (Like, if she's having a bad night with her stomach, make more trips to the bathroom instead of farting into the sheets? Or, maybe she can pay attention to trigger foods, and we can go from there? I don't know. Something like that.) Tips, please, on how to approach and initiate the conversation.
2) Does anyone have any experience with remedies for gas that I could suggest to her? Suggestions for over-the-counter or natural remedies are welcome, as are prescription drugs. She has an internist, and currently takes something for abdominal cramping, so if there's an Rx that's effective, maybe it's one we could check out.
Answers I am NOT looking for:
a) Suck it up.
b) Deal with it.
c) Love is...
I know relationships are full of compromise, and I've lived with partners before. I also know that farting is a natural function of the human body. I'm not judging her for smelly farts any more than I'd judge her for having bowlegs. I sincerely feel bad for any sort of discomfort she feels, and I'd like to help her. I'd also like to fall asleep without worrying if I'm going to wake up feeling like I'm being gassed by a cruel, cruel dictator.
In summary, this isn't a "Should I" question, it's a "How do I" question. Many thanks.