I'm a gay man who is looking to start dating women. How do I broach the subject with a date, if at all? Confused? Let me try to explain.
I identify as gay. When it comes to my sexuality, it’s the label I’m most comfortable with. But I'm also attracted to women. I’d rate myself as 4.5 on the Kinsey Scale
and some of my friends would argue that I'm bisexual. I haven't dated a woman since high school and the last time I had sex with one was in 2002, but I've been pining over the fairer sex for the last year or so. I'm more easily and more often attracted to men, but the attraction to certain types of women is definitely there.
I believe I’ve reached a point where I'm comfortable with the notion that a person’s sex is less important to me than is the connection I have with them. Having recently moved to a big city where the dating pool is vast, I now have ample opportunity to pursue the other side of my sexuality. However, there are some obvious hurdles.
I'd like to know your ideas on (i) how a woman I'm dating might respond to finding out that I'm essentially gay, (ii) the ideal point in the dating process to broach the subject, (iii) the best way to broach the subject, (iv) how I can avoid being unfair to or hurting the other person, and any other thoughts you might have.
It may help to know that I'm a fairly "masculine" lad and most people wouldn’t guess that I’m gay.