I would like to set up a project to increase my chances of starting a serious relationship within the next year or so. My plan is to set reasonably small goals and tackle one new step every two weeks. The current items on my checklist are:
- Cut out sugar/white flour from my diet
- Commit to going to the gym 3x a week
- Commit to spending an extra 30 minutes every morning on hair/makeup/putting together a cute outfit
- Take a picture of myself every morning and review once a week - think about what's working and what isn't
- Attend 1 "singles" meetup event per week
- Start 1 conversation with a stranger per day
- Set up a profile on a online dating website
- Contact two people on the dating website per week
Can you suggest any items I'm missing? Do you have any thoughts on whether this type of approach would work? If you've undertaken a similar project, do you have any advice for what worked for you?
I'm a gay female in my late 20's. I'm about 20 pounds over what I would consider my "ideal weight". (Currently, I'm about a US size 10/12 in most stores). I'm somewhat socially awkward. I have some experience with short term dating but I've never clicked with a long term partner before. I live in a medium-sized city with a fairly large gay population, but I don't have a lot of connections with the community here.
I really like this previous question
but I'm interested not just in increased confidence/attractiveness, but also in maximizing my opportunities to meet someone I'll mesh with.
Thanks in advance for any help you can provide!