How can I get an orgrasm when everything is so intense?
November 16, 2007 5:57 PM Subscribe
[NSFW] Women of the world...how can I have an orgasm when everything just feels so intense?
posted by anonymous to health & fitness (21 answers total) 14 users marked this as a favorite
I seem to to have a problem with managing the intensity of stimulation. This older question
is similar in that it feels too "intense" for me, but I don't have any sexual abuse in my past. I'm in my early twenties and on my second partner and sex feels wonderful, but I can't seem to get to a full orgasm. Admittedly I'm sometimes a tense person with a stressful life, but I always look forward to sex. Mostly he manually stimulates me before and during sex. I've used a vibrator before but I don't have a good one.
Once I'm stimulated I just can't seem to handle it and I pull back. If I can relax a lot I can feel muscles all over my body start to tighten, but I have only managed to orgasm once and it required a lot of concentration, a vibrator, and a position that kept me from pulling back. Is this normal?
More importantly, is there anything I can do about it? I thought about grabbing a bottle of the lubricant that desensitizes men so they can go longer in the hopes it would moderate things.