What to do when I've been robbed?
October 31, 2007 5:23 PM Subscribe
My apartment was burglarized a week ago Saturday. They took jewelry that isn't worth much but that meant the world to me, and money. The police came and took a report but seeing as this is NYC, my case file is probably already buried. I'm not sure what to do now.
posted by firevoice to human relations (10 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
Detectives believe the thief or thieves gained access into my apartment building and got to the roof through an unlocked door. They then used the fire escape to come through my window which had a window fan in it. The cops believe they came up through the fire escape and that these type of burglars usually strike during the day because they don't want a confrontation. However, my neighbor said she heard someone on the roof between 9-11PM so that fits more with the detective's theory. Prints were found on the window, but the robbers were wearing gloves so that's a dead end. I've since spoken to other people in the buidling who've lived here for twenty years and apparently it's common knowledge the door to the roof has been unlocked for at least two years. The super of the building confirmed this as he said he hasn't had a key to the door since he became super two years ago so it's left unlocked.
He notified the management, who never even called me to get the details of what happened. Instead, they put up a flyer that Monday reminding residents not to buzz anyone into the building. No mention of the robbery or anything. I called them and told them I was very dissapointed in the action they had taken, but they stood by their decision and never even once asked me what happened or you know, apologized for knowing there about the secuirty lapses in the building. There are several fire escapes that are hanging dangerously low where someone with even a little bit of upper-body strength could hoist themselves up.
I printed out my own flyer and put it on every floor, as well as in the lobby and in the elevator. Not twenty-four hours after I put them, they were taken down. So I replaced them. Again they were taken down. I'm pretty sure the management office instructed the super to take them down.
And now I'll get my questions.
1. Knowing about the security holes in this building, and knowing that the management office, super and other residents were aware of these, do I have any course of action? Even if they were buzzed into the budiling, or followed someone else in, if the door to the roof had been locked, they would've had no where to go except roam the halls, and no one is going to try to break into an apartment through the front door when anyone can get off the elevator or come up through the stairwell. The shadiness of the management office as far as not wanting to inform the other residents and repeatedly taking down flyers which explain the incident seem to feel like a cover-up. My landlord told me Thursday that a new lock to the roof door has been installed, but well, great. They've already taken everything they can from me. Is it worth it to try to get one of those sleazy, oily 1-800-LAWYER types?
2. I'm an emotional wreck. My apartment doesn't feel like home anymore. It doesn't even LOOK like my home anymore. I've replaced most of my "triggers" including throwing out a lamp where they unscrewed the lightbulb, replacing my blinds and getting a big stick of wood to make sure no one can get in my window.
Leaving my apartment for more than an hour causes me as much anxiety as it does when I'm in this apartment. I go from crying fits to bursts of anger. I'm weary of anyone and everyone. No matter how tired I am, trying to go to bed causes me great anxiety. The first week I slept during the day on my couch with my light and TV on. It was only two days ago I was able to sleep in my bed, but again, it was during the day with my TV on. I can't even bring myself to open my blinds because I feel it's the last bit of privacy I have. I'm paranoid. I wake up at every little noise. I run to my door everytime I hear someone in the hall.
Yes, I need therapy. Unfortunately the referral places I've called haven't been helpful as far as returning my phone calls. I've been in therapy before and had a great experience with it when I was in college, but now I'm weary of having to start all over, having to give my history instead of dealing with the present. Using every keyword I can think of, I've googled to see if there are any victim support groups in the NYC area and haven't found one for people who have been burglarized. Had I been exposed to asbestos, I'd be all set. Does anyone know of any support groups? Anyone know of a referral system which will actually return phone calls and work with me to find a therapist I can feel comfortable with? There's a few requirements I need when it comes to a therapist.
Moving is not an option unfortunately. I don't have the money for a security deposit, first/last month rent and every studio in this area is at least $300 a month more than what I'm paying now.
Thanks and I apologize for the length.