Why did the lawyer cross the road?
August 13, 2011 3:24 PM Subscribe
My boyfriend is in his articling year at a criminal defense firm. All of a sudden, he's so rarely around! Have you been in this situation? What strategies can make this sudden shift in our lives easier on us both?
posted by Clotilde to human relations (11 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
My boyfriend (who I live with) has been articling at a criminal defense firm for three months now. I work at home (I'm an artist) and I'm not used to having him gone so much of the time -- late into the evening, parts of the weekends. I don't have any friends who are in this line of work -- not even close. All my friends are artists. I am finding it bewildering and kind of lonely to all of a sudden have lost him to his work, but I understand that articling students get the brunt of the work.
Can anyone who is in this position or has had a relationship with someone doing this kind of work suggest strategies for coping with the sudden absence of the other person, and does this kind of thing usually last for a person's entire career, or is the year of articling particularly bad, or the first few years, but then it evens out?
How can I make it easier for him, as well? (I'm sure it's stressful for him to always be working, all of a sudden, even though he enjoys the work and the people there). I would like him to enjoy this year as much as possible, and to be able to do things to make his life at work easier, which is hard, not knowing exactly what someone in his position needs. (I know: ask him... but he is new to this as well and may not know what things would help.)
Any words of encouragement or advise would be welcome, and just personal experiences... It's been stressful around here! I wish to make it less so...