Can I get him back?
June 29, 2007 6:28 PM Subscribe
Very touchy situation with my ex almost but not quite boyfriend. Any and all insight appreciated.
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (23 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
[I am asking this for my friend who is just joining metafilter and doesn't have asking priviledges yet. Thanks!]
At the beginning of this year, I met and started dating a wonderful awesome guy. Everything was peachy and good until I messed it all up.
After a few months of seeing eachother, he made the very reasonable request to be exclusive with eachother. And I, partially out of selfishness and partially because of old wounds, told him no but said we should keep on dating with a "we'll see." He literally cried when I told him that but agreed to keep seeing me.
About a month after that talk he decided to break up with me because of my failure to commit. As soon as I knew he meant business and was ready to leave me for good I saw the mistake I had made and threw myself at his feet and told him I would commit and be everything I should have been from the start.
No dice. He told me that the talk where I callously refused him had cut him deeper than anything on earth and his feelings for me had been dying ever since.
So we both walked.
It became apparent through several channels (mutual friends, his myspace profile) that he was immediately throwing himself headfirst straight into a relationship with another woman.
I resolved to just let it go until I got a text from him roughly seven days after the official "it's over" talk. He was chatty and we texted for an hour or so, and we ended up making plans to grab lunch together. (I suggested it and he agreed very enthusiastically) This lunch is coming up in the near future.
I'd still like to have him back if I can, and this gives me a glimmer of hope.
From a guys perspective, how likely is it you'd text your ex and agree to meet for lunch if you were supposedly all into some new woman?
How can I best feel him out and maximize my chances of winning him back?
I guess I would just like some advice and insights into this from all perspectives as much as possible. Am I reading too much into it?