Is it normal to never fight with your boyfriend (or girlfriend)?
November 20, 2010 1:17 AM Subscribe
Is it normal to never fight with your boyfriend/girlfriend? Should I get mad at him for certain things?
posted by sunnychef88 to Human Relations (38 answers total) 8 users marked this as a favorite
I am dating a wonderful man who is a fellow undergraduate student at my university. We met through a religious community on campus, and have been dating for a bit less than a year. I really love him and know that he always wants what's best for me, but naturally, there are moments when I think he could be doing things differently. I am an easy-going person by nature (sometimes too easy going, being chronically late and procrastinating till the umpteenth hour), and sometimes I wonder if there are things I should make a bigger deal over, or get mad about. We *never* fight. Is it normal to have been dating for a bit less than a year, and to never have had cross words with one another? If there is something major that I'm unsure about, I'll mention it to him, saying x makes me a bit unhappy and proceeding to explain why. Then things change, and we go forward.
What are expectations women should have in relationships? My boyfriend is a conscientious worker, takes care of himself, is nice to everyone, makes time for us to be alone once a week, has a great relationship with God, is hilarious, is polite, is sexy, and truly cares for me.
That said, he doesn't say random sweet things unless I compliment him first, doesn't plan our dates ever (he always asks me what to do), he doesn't buy me things, rarely asks me questions about myself... are those things important at all? They don't bother me, but then again I've never dated anything else in my life.
When should I be legitimately angered about stuff and want to change things about our relationship? I feel like our low level of conflict isn't the norm. Or are two people who respect each other and don't sweat the small stuff always like this in relationships?
Can someone with relationship experience help me out?
(We're in our early 20s, for reference.)