How can I get a guy to like me -- again?
May 1, 2007 2:31 PM Subscribe
What can I say or do to get a guy to want me again? (Or, can movie cliches be useful in the real world?)
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (13 answers total) 8 users marked this as a favorite
The abridged backstory: A few months ago, I (a guy, 21 years old), met a guy (same age) for a date, and I completely enjoyed every second being with him. A few dates later I kissed him, and the next night he kissed me, but soon thereafter he told me he was confused and didn't know what he wanted. We fell out of contact.
Then, a couple weeks ago, he sent me an email that said he missed me and that he wanted to get together soon. So we did, a few times since then, and we had a really great time apparently as friends, but once again I'm completely crazy about him.
It's stressful and frightening and I'm sure it's the first time I've felt this way about anybody: for a while, the only way I could think to describe how I felt when I wasn't with him was as a sense of dull melancholy, until I realized that that's what it must feel like to miss someone.
My first American instinct is to lay bare all my emotions in a verbose and cinematic monologue, to tell him I'm crazy about him, that I can't stop thinking about him, that I miss him when I'm not with him, that I want to defend and comfort him, that I've never felt like this before.
What might I say to persuade him to once again want to date me? Of course there's no 100% guarantee of anything, and all people are different, but is any of that movie stuff something you'd want to hear? Has a similar (or different) approach ever worked for you? I would really appreciate your advice.