Why can't I accurately predict my feelings ten years into the future??
November 14, 2012 8:49 AM Subscribe
Help me relax and enjoy my budding relationship without stressing needlessly about The Future!
posted by anonymous to human relations (6 answers total) 7 users marked this as a favorite
So, after years of dating guys who I just wasn't that excited about, or who couldn't have cared less about me... I've met a dude who I am sort of gaga over. This one is Different, he's kind and sweet and gets my weirdness, my connection with him reminds me of my only previous satisfying relationship but with added amazing sexual chemistry, and I can really see this going places. So can he. We've both expressed how happy we are with how things are going and we're just generally... limerent.
BUT we've only been going out for like a month. And so, while much of the time I am perfectly able to just enjoy being around him and getting to know him better, other times I dwell stupidly on stuff like either... how terrible it will be when we inevitably messily break up, or whether his unusual job will be an issue in our inevitable marriage. You know? All this stuff about the far, far future, when honestly I barely know this guy because, hello, it's been a month.
So how can I get myself to live in the moment more? I don't want to miss out on actual reality because I'm putting myself in an imaginary future with a fictional version of this guy.