March 8, 2007 6:55 AM Subscribe
How to grow a spine.
posted by anonymous to human relations (43 answers total) 24 users marked this as a favorite
If you were bullied into adulthood, but then it stopped: what happened? What did you do to change yourself and/or the perception of you by people who are prone to bullying? I am interested in specific experiences by the formerly bullied, not general platitudes I already know like, "Stand up straighter", "love yourself," etc.
(Background: raised in an abusive home; no longer tolerate bullying or exploitive relationships at the most intimate level--close friends, S.O.'s, etc--but might still give off the "scent" of one who is a good target....often still attract bullies and/or bullying in other circumstances before I'm even aware it's happening).