Help Me Understand Why You're Such a Jerk
January 6, 2013 2:36 PM Subscribe
From a psychological point of view, what makes some people power-trippers, or just generally not nice?
posted by oceanview to Human Relations (12 answers total) 17 users marked this as a favorite
I'm currently working at a job where my manager is becoming a real pain in the ass. He constantly criticizes our work without buffering it with constructive feedback, and generally lacks the self-awareness to understand that employees might be upset with this approach. If you try to justify yourself, he always has something to say to negate your point of view. I'm learning to just give up and go along with things until I find another job.
I am more of a pushover, introvert, people pleaser etc., so I find it difficult to be around people who don't naturally behave/think this way as well. Help me understand power-trippers! I'm really curious about what makes some people bullyish and more interested in bossing others around rather than wanting to make sure others feel ok about the interaction. Info about psychological theories on this topic would be great, as well as personal experiences with the matter.
Also, I realilze that being a people-pleaser isn't a great way to be either. I'm actually partly asking this question because I'm tired of being so sensitive to other's needs and their perception of me and am hoping this question will help me learn to adjust these traits in myself a bit.