For the love of god, leave us alone.
January 16, 2009 5:21 PM Subscribe
How can I deal with a group of neighborhood punks intent on making my kids' lives miserable? Most of the information online tells parents to involve the school administration, but this is happening right in my neighborhood -- on my very street -- not in an school setting.
posted by _Mona_ to human relations (85 answers total) 12 users marked this as a favorite
I recently moved into a new house with my elementary school-aged children and am frustrated that a pack of obnoxious kids bully my children every chance they get.
Since the punks are roughly the same age as mine, we initially we tried befriending them when we first moved in. I invited them over often handed out sodas, and so on, but apparently they prefer harassment over playing with the Wii and Rock Band.
In addition to yelling obscenities and verbal threats daily, they also get physical with my children -- pushing, shoving, tripping, throwing things at them, etc. I rarely let my kids venture around the neighborhood anymore, though they're old enough to do so, and instead have them play in the front or back yard. Still and yet, the kids give my children a ration of shit every chance they get, even in our own yard.
The one time I tried saying something to the kids (nicely, I didn't holler), they threw things at my house when I went back inside.
In desperation, I videotaped my kids playing in our driveway and caught the group of brats stealing their baseball equipment and even threatening my oldest boy with a bat. Through all of this, my kids kept to themselves and ignored the little cretins as I've told them to do (they don't yell back, get physical, or do anything else that might inflame the situation).
I took the tape to the parents of two different children. One claims she's reprimanding her son (though he continues to swat my kids as they walk down the street, and scream names at them). The other parent told me it wasn't his problem and he just didn't give a damn.
Out of desperation, I went to the homeowners association (I live in a fairly affluent gated community). They told me it wasn't their problem and that I could call the police if I didn't like it.
I'm literally at a loss for what to do next. I moved from my last house because the neighborhood was overrun with bullies, so I know what involving the cops will be like (they will try their best to do what they can but they won't be able to catch anyone in action, and therefore nothing will get better.)
I supervise my children, I make sure they're not up to no good when my back is turned, I've tried being nice to the bullies, I've tried going to the parents, and for the last few days we've just been ignoring them, but it's getting worse. Ignoring the situation isn't helping, and I can't stand letting my kids get screamed at and/or threatened every single freaking day.
This is really becoming a huge problem and I'm desperate for suggestions and ideas.