Married but fell for a co-worker
August 11, 2014 4:31 PM Subscribe
I have fallen hard for someone at work. My 18-year marriage has been good, but now that I'm in this place I'm in, I'm seeing things in a different light and I am beginning to question everything. If you've been through this kind of thing before, what has helped you work through it?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (55 answers total) 17 users marked this as a favorite
I haven't been attracted to anyone else during our marriage until now. Sure, I notice and appreciate attractive women, but I've never really had an interest before now. And wow, am I smitten. We became good friends right away, but over the last couple of months, I have really fallen for her. I think she may have feelings for me, too, but I can't be sure. We've had personal conversations and she has confided in me, but we've never "gone there" or even joked about anything that isn't above-board. I don't want to do anything stupid that could hurt either of us.
Marriage-wise, we aren't currently in need of counseling. Sure, if everything was 100% perfect I wouldn't be in this spot, but this really is pretty much all on me. I would consider talking solo to a therapist, but I'd like to see if the hive mind can help set me straight without taking that step quite yet. Right now I am pretty blinded by my crush/infatuation/love feelings for this co-worker.
What's helped you sort things out and figure out which way is up?