I kissed a girl at work – and I want to do that again...
February 10, 2014 8:09 AM Subscribe
A rather classic tale of infidelity and I don’t know what to do. As concisely as possible – went out with some colleagues for drinks and fairly early everyone disappeared apart from me and a girl who started in our office about a year ago. She is a bit younger than me, but we work relatively closely (same floor, a lot of crossover with our client work). I've liked this girl since she started. She is awesome pretty and on occasions over the last year I've not been able to get her out of my head – for weeks.
We kept on and I suggested we carry on and go to another bar. It was just the two of us and I maybe shouldn't have done that, but that’s what we did and we ended up kissing.
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We were both drunk, but I felt like we both really wanted to – I certainly did and she said afterwards she had some feelings for me. Anyway, we left, I got her a cab home (we kissed again multiple times) and I went home. Now I am about to go to work, will see her and I've got no idea what to say – because if I could, I’m sure I would sleep with her. I know I will be judged here and nobody is going to say ‘good idea’, but what can I do? Physically I am super attracted to this girl and if the opportunity even remotely arose, I would be trying to make it happen. My situation is such that I am only going to be at my office for another couple of months, after that my wife and I are planning on leaving and heading to the Midwest – for good, so I won’t be around much longer.
Small back story - I am 2.5 years married and honestly despite the above it’s quite happy. Not awesome, but part of leaving is for us to start a better life where we aren't both working so much and I’m sure that will have a positive impact. We don’t have kids. I happen to know we are also the couple that in our social set, people would be heartbroken and ‘if these guys can’t make it, who the hell can’ shocked if they found out I had done this – or indeed wanted to do something else. It’s therefore pretty out of character (or at least I thought it was). Work girl is in a long term relationship and says she really likes her guy, but I’m rationalizing that if I’m gone in a couple of months, I will be out of the situation and therefore the risk / temptation in short order.
I know likely all will say don’t do it, keep your distance and forget about it, but has anyone faced something like this, acted on it and managed to keep things straight at home? Not acting on this, especially knowing this girl might be into me is going to drive me nuts.