I haven't been feeling so confident lately. I know my SO could also be much happier if she felt a bit more confident. When we first met around 3 years ago, we were both extremely confident. Now we seem to have trouble being decisive, making decisions to better ourselves/get necessary things done, and choosing a restaurant or a date idea gets harder and harder. I would love ideas of things that could help with this.
What I'm looking for:
So, what I'm looking for is more than mantras or helpful words of encouragement, it's actual activities that we could do that would help build confidence and reinforce decision making/taking risks. Something that I personally learned about is power stances
. We also have fun at arcades, and we get to take risks/make decisions moving from game to game.
What we've tried
We play a lot of video games
together, but lately the options for cooperative non-droll couch co-op for PC or Wii U is rather lacking. We also take turns playing Titanfall. Trine and Lego are both too easy. These really seem to actually punish confidence rather than reward it.
When you do something risky/wrong, you usually are punished with death, and the punishment of death is a good reason to not take unnecessary risks.
We also like board games
, but the problem with most euro games is that you only make a few decisions that decide the whole game, or that the game is led by chance. We tried Go, but the skill difference made it difficult for my SO.
Previously in the relationship we enjoyed things like geocaching
, but we are usually too lazy. Same goes for tennis
, we used to enjoy it a ton, but it's fallen a bit by the wayside. It might be a circular problem, but I am just looking for something new that will really
encourage confidence and teamwork.
23m and 21f - we go out to bars once or twice a week, don't have a ton of strong friends outside each other, we have normal little arguments and a little drama, but we are always learning more about each other.
I also don't want it to seem like I have a problem in the relationship. I'm not looking for professional help or anything like that. Just looking for fun positive activities.
The reason I'm asking is that we have both seemed a little depressed lately, sleeping more, finding it more difficult to care about things, finding it difficult to do things like dishes/move/laundry. Our spontaneity is a bit less consistent than it once was, but I don't think we've ever really fallen into a rut. We find it hard to find dates that aren't events.
We live apart from each other. We are both healthy weights and could both probably exercise a bit more than we do, but we definitely get at least an hour of cardio a week (soccer, or jogging, or something)
Really, any comments with feeling/ideas are super-welcome, but if you have a killer idea/insight of activities/ways to boost confidence, that would be amazing! Thanks!