How do I approach a second date?
October 16, 2011 2:56 PM Subscribe
Never dated someone I didn't already know. Some advice on dating protocol?
posted by Atlantic to Human Relations (19 answers total) 12 users marked this as a favorite
So I've posted here before, normally about unhappier subjects of lost love and healing. But today I have more of an upbeat question.
So, I'm very new to dating. All my previous relationships started with an implied level of romance and the "dating" phase was had always been more of a formality for me.
However, I've been single for about a year now, and I've met this wonderful girl. We've been chatting via text/facebook, and been on one coffee date. (Which I can only assume went well since she "lost" track of time and missed her class) and was rather eager to go out with me again.
Here is where my level of dating experience falls short. Since I've already asked her out again (we decided on this scary Halloween hike at a local farm), and she was very excited to go, we will be going next Saturday night. What I'm not sure about is what I should be doing in the meantime? Should I be talking to her every day? I mean we're only going on a second date, so I don't want to come on too strong. After our first, she started texting me not less than 10 minutes after we parted. We didn't talk yesterday, which I think is fine, because I don't think we NEED to be talking every day at this point. If she were to contact me I, that would be great and I would respond, but I'm just very confused as to what the level of communication should be and how normal dating protocol works. I also don’t want to seem like a jerk or too aloof…
Obviously, I'm aware that all situations are different and there are no written rules, I'm more so looking for some experiences and what you guys think is acceptable. I’m trying to find a good balance because like I said, all my long term relationships have started with people I already knew and It felt more natural.
Also, what’s acceptable for a second date in terms of physical contact? I’m talking like, holding hands/kiss at the door ect. Please consider that we’re going on a “Halloween hike” which I’ve been told is very scary haha.
This whole, dating a girl I’ve just met, is very much a departure from what I’m used to and I could use some guidance.