Am I un-datable without a smart phone?
March 24, 2014 8:18 PM Subscribe
No, seriously. Should I buy an iPhone just to get on Tindr. And yes, I'm that desperate.
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (24 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
This isn't just me being bitter about online dating. Or at least, not entirely. I've been rocking OkCupid on-and-off now for a couple of years, feel familiar with the terrain, refined my profile, market-researched my photos—and am still ignored by 94% of women I contact.
But that's really not new. Everyone knows that women get bombarded with oafish, offensive come-ons and that men get crickets. The world is a frustrating, unfair place.
What *is* new is that *everyone* I complain to about online dating tells me they have exponentially more success on Tindr. This is especially persuasive coming from female friends, who increasingly tell me they don't even *read* OkC messages anymore. Why waste their time?
So my fear is that my flirty little ice breakers—which faced long odds to begin with, given the signal-to-noise ratio—now might not even be read.
Of course, Tindr is getting gamed by the same real-estate agent douchebags that wreck...well, all dating, really. But it seems pretty clear that the future of dating, for better or for worse, is mobile.
I have no other immediate, urgent uses for a smart phone. I pay $25 per month for talk and text on my prehistoric phone, and that's served me quite well. I would hate to triple this just to expand my dating options, but...well, I don't want to be left in the dust. I should add here, for the record, that I'm 31 and generally acceptable to women in terms of appearance, manners, self-expression, etc. I just need to get that foot in the door.
So, frustrated daters of AskMe, am I doomed without a smart phone? Is the experience worth shelling out for?