Guys: Is nervousness in a girl always a turn-off?
February 2, 2014 6:40 AM Subscribe
Sometimes I just feel so awkward when I meet a seemingly eligible, nice guy. I feel certain that it is obvious that I am nervous and then I start feeling self-conscious about my nervousness. I feel like there is a stereotype of the sort of sweetly nervous, somewhat awkward nice guy that girls may like because his sweet, nice, nervousness means he is a nice guy who likes you. Does this go the other way at all?
posted by thesnowyslaps to Human Relations (24 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
I just feel like there is some expectation that women should be aloof and laid back and not care if a man likes her or not. I am just not good at embodying this . . . not that I am totally unable to carry on a conversation with someone I like or anything, just that I find myself getting a little shifty eyed and shy when I am talking to someone I would like to go out with. Something to work on, sure, and it probably has something to do with confidence (though I feel like I like myself well enough most of the time, sometimes I just feel like I have habits left over from when I was being younger that maybe make me seem less confident than I am). But I am just curious if this is necessarily a turn off for guys. Thanks!