Give up on long distance friendships?
January 29, 2014 10:48 AM Subscribe
I moved cross country 4 years ago. It's hard to stay in touch with my friends from back there, and I know people move on and away from friends at times. But I'm thinking I should stop trying to keep a connection with them after an email I sent asking for encouragement was ignored.
posted by dollyllama to Human Relations (30 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
I tried to reach out to 2 of my old friends recently. I've been planning to go back to visit but I'm thinking maybe I value these friendships more than my "friends" do. I've been depressed and suicidal for a while and asked these 2 for some encouragement. I also expressed how much I value their friendship and miss them. I asked what was going on in their lives, how they were, etc.
And I got zero response. Nothing.
A couple of months ago, I was planning a visit which didn't work out at the time due to money. I texted one of these friends to say I couldn't make it at the time, but would try to swing a trip when I got some extra money in a few months. Her only response was, "Aw." Haven't heard from her since.
I guess I was looking forward to the trip a lot more than she was. I feel like these friends are more important to me than I am to them. I don't have any friends where I live now so maybe I am clinging to the past instead of forging new friendships with people who act like they give a shit about me.
Am I being too dramatic? I just can't imagine ignoring an email from a friend saying they've been depressed and need some encouragement.