Help me date myself
October 14, 2013 4:34 PM Subscribe
I went through a pretty wretched breakup of a long-term relationship earlier this year and am still dealing with the ill effects. I'm not interested in dating anyone, or rather don't think I should date anyone, for a while. But I'm getting really into the idea of dating myself. Please help me come up with ideas to do that!
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (21 answers total) 66 users marked this as a favorite
I'm in grad school and my relationship with myself of late has been kind of like the boring part of mundane relationships: watching TV, staying at home, junk food, perfunctory sex (well, masturbation). I'm interested in being more... sensual. Into myself. Enjoying being in my skin. The dual reasons are a) wanting to be more comfortable and have more pleasure in the body I'll be in for a hopefully long time and b) wanting to bring more sensual pleasure and excitement to any future relationships or lovers.
This week, I've switched from wham-bam masturbation to the same porn as always to trying new stimulation, new styles of porn/erotica, and trying to treat masturbation more like sex with myself. Tonight I took a long, sensual shower like I would with a lover. I do semi-regularly go to the movies by myself, but don't do many other date-like things. I'd like ideas for what can help me nurture a positive, excited, sensual relationship with myself, that hopefully won't cost too much. What can I try to feel more engaged with my body, excited to be by myself, and to enjoy life kind of the way you do when you're in the early stages of a new relationship? I know I've focused on sexual things here, but really anything that would help me feel more connected to myself and engaged with my body are welcome.
I'm in my mid-20s, female, living in San Francisco. I'm poor on money and time, eat pretty healthily most of the time but don't work out. I'm very liberal, kinky, just starting to explore the idea of a kink community, so any sex-positive workshops or events you recommend, I'd probably be down.