June 30, 2010 7:44 AM Subscribe
How can I improve myself? Problem - nobody in my life has ever accepted me as I am.
posted by By The Grace of God to Human Relations (24 answers total) 17 users marked this as a favorite
I want to do lots of things to improve myself but tend to lose motivation because it plays on sensitive psychological territory - anyone close to me has always been insistent on changes.
I'm working on loving myself more. For example I made huge changes recently in my life out of self love, and am proud of my courage and the skills I'm learning. I am resigned to a life without that feeling of overwhelming love and acceptance but I am quite sure that it's something high on my list of existential goals - something I would not like to die without experiencing.
I worry there's something wrong with me I'm blind to that makes people discount my presence - for example I did a really big good thing in a community I'm a member of and out of a group of people that were thanked I was left out. How can I identify something like this that's causing people to discount me? I'm aware it's my fault not theirs but what should I do? Therapy isn't that practical but books would be.
Some broken, moldy part of me is crying out for that feeling of unconditional love and acceptance. How can I get it?