Is my boyfriend gay?
August 13, 2013 8:29 AM Subscribe
My boyfriend was raped as a kid, and recently told me that he used to believe he was gay before he met me. I don't know how to handle this.
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We have been together for one year, and our relationship is going great. A few days ago, he decided to tell me that his older cousin would rape him for a long period of time when he was a child. The thing is, he said, that after some time he started liking it and did it with his free will. This went on for a couple of months and then he moved to another city, where 10 years later he met me.
The thing I can't handle is that he said he didn't know if he was gay or straight after what had happened to him, and he only found out when he met me. I don't know what to say to that. Is there a possibility he still likes men? He always kept talking about famous men and how great they are and what a great body they have and how he'd like to know them... I didn't thing it was a big deal but now that I know more about him I don't know what to believe anymore.
Is there a chance that what happened to him made him to like other men? Or maybe it doesn't even have anything to do with that? Could it be that he has benn lying to me the entire time?
I don't know what to do anymore.