Transgendered, Transexual, Bigendered, Bi....sexual?
April 2, 2010 11:33 AM Subscribe
Is there such a thing as being bi-sexual or a-sexual? (Not in the way that you think.)
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (22 answers total) 14 users marked this as a favorite
So we know what sex means (anatomy/genetics). We know what gender means (societal persona-based construct intended to correspond with anatomical sex).
We've got transgendered people (societally imposed gender isn't correct). We've got transsexual people (physical sex isn't correct). I'm sure there are bi-gendered people, who meaningfully feel like they have/exhibit/identify-with both genders (or maybe neither).
But, are there people who are bisexual or asexual, where the "sexual" refers to biological sex rather than sexual orientation? In other words, people who identify with, or feel like they're meant to be both sexes, or simply don't have a sex preference if they could easily choose for themselves?
Personally, I have some qualities of both genders, but I don't identify with the opposite gender in a way that makes me feel or think that I'm transgendered. I also happen to be bisexual in the sexual orientation sense.
However, in terms of my own physical/anatomical sex, I'm also ambivalent, or perhaps indifferent. I could anatomically be the opposite sex, and that would be fine, even kind of cool. It's not that I want to be non-sexed or anything, but (when I imagine it) I wouldn't feel trapped in the wrong body if I were the opposite sex, and I don't feel trapped in the wrong body as my current physical sex. I don't have a desire to seek surgical or medical treatment to transition to the opposite sex, but I wouldn't object to it either. (Well, negative/difficult components of the process itself aside, that is. And the fact that my significant other wouldn't be so into my sex being different.)
Is this a common feeling? Is it actually the norm? If it's not the norm, is there a recognized group of people with this feeling? Is there a name for the group or the feeling? (I know it's not intersexed.) It's not so easy to search for; bisexual and asexual already have meanings that aren't what I'm talking about.
Perhaps a pertinent question is: Do non transsexual people feel as strongly about being their actual sex as transsexual people do about being their actual sex? All else being equal, does the idea of being the opposite sex seem aversive to non transsexual people? (Like how straight people find the idea of having sex with people of the same sex aversive, and gay people find the idea of having sex with people of the opposite sex aversive.)
I should have mentioned this in some of my gender studies classes when we covered trans stuff, but I didn't.