Compounding Life Disasters
March 7, 2013 6:51 AM Subscribe
I think my friend tried to fondle me in my sleep.
posted by anonymous to human relations (50 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
My life has been in a bit of a tail spin lately. I am in the process of moving back to my hometown to regroup after a series of hardships. I have been staying on my friend's couch for the past couple of weeks. I am female and he is male. Last night, I woke up and he was kneeling on the floor next to the couch touching my ass under the blankets. I was a little disoriented and turned my head towards him to see what was going on. As soon as we made eye contact, he looked surprised, shot up and left the room. He didn't come back. I sort of laid there a little stunned and couldn't bring myself to get up and confront him. I stayed awake all night, got up early and left. I think he was trying to fondle me in my sleep.
He is my closest friend and we have been friends for years (we have never been romantic). We are both in our early 30s. He has a girlfriend. I obviously am not staying with him anymore, I couldn't sleep at all after that. I have no idea what to say to him. My instinct is just to cut all ties and never speak to him again.
Additionally, I am a very heavy sleeper and he knows this. We even joked about it the day before. I have no idea if this was the first time he's tried this or if it has happened before and to what extent. I can't think if any other explanation other than he was trying to touch me while I slept. But maybe I am overreacting? Does he deserve a chance to explain himself? Could something else have been going on? I have seriously been through the ringer these past few months. Between the stress and hardships that led me to his couch in the first place and this, I have basically no reserves to deal with this. Right now I just feel kind of numb and whatever emotion "WTF?" is. Many of our friends are mutual friends and I don't want to tel them about this.
Do I talk to him about this or cut ties? Should I say something to his girlfriend? If I talk to him, how the fuck should I approach this?