August 12, 2007 3:15 AM Subscribe
I did something effed up and now I'm paying for it.
posted by reallygoodgirl to human relations (33 answers total) 9 users marked this as a favorite
While talking with my sister online I expressed a rather harsh opinion about one of our mutual friends. While expressing my feelings I also managed to betray my friend's confidence. I acknowledge that this was really wrong of me to do, and I've apologized profusely. However, my sister went and sent the friend a transcript of our IM conversation!
My friend baited me later on the phone, asking me if I said this or if I said that - which I think is wrong, I'd rather they just confronted me about it head on instead of *knowing* what I said and trying to get me to admit to it. Also, nothing I said was untrue, it was just unpleasant to hear. Now my friend is mad at me, but I'm more worried about my sister - this is a recurring thing in our relationship. She is constantly moralizing to me and telling me how I have fucked up even though she has hardly lived an absolutely mistake-free life. Should I try to explain the hypocrisy of the situation to her (people in glass houses and all that) or should I just not talk to her at all? This sounds pretty harsh of me, but I'm pretty sick of putting up with this all the time. How do you deal with someone who thinks it's okay to betray your confidence just to tell someone else that you betrayed theirs? I know what I did was wrong and I feel really bad about it, but she took something I said offhand and while I was in a crap mood and basically destroyed my trust in her.