Jesus says no!
February 15, 2013 8:35 PM Subscribe
Roomies' religious convictions are colliding with my lifestyle. They're saying no sex in the house, period. They want overnight guests to sleep in a separate room. I really need the house. How do I manage this?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (52 answers total)
First, I read this question
already. The cultural implications are different enough, and the situation is complicated enough that I feel this warrants a separate question. I just moved into a new place. I'm renting from a couple young guys' parents. The guys live there. The whole family is pretty religious. I'm not. There's a no sex rule in the house. Overnight guests are expected to sleep outside the room of the tenant. I had a discussion with the older of the two brothers, as he's the point of contact for the parents. Basically, I told him that I understand his religious convictions, and am willing to middle road this if I can. I'm a respectful person, and I'd never keep anyone here for more than a night at a time. But I think this is a pretty big violation of my own personal lifestyle. I feel like it crosses personal boundaries of mine. He threw his hands up about it, and said that it was up to his parents, as they're the home owners. I've never spoken to them before, and have only lived here for three weeks, give or take. I'm not sure what I should do. If I call them, I'm concerned it'll color their view of me from here out. The last thing I need is tension between landlords and myself so early on in a new arrangement. I asked him if he was willing to make a gentleman's agreement about the whole thing, because that keeps the parents out of this. I don't feel he would lose behind this. But he said he won't do that, as its a breach of their trust. I get that, but there has to be some way for me to get what I want without pissing anyone off. I'm frankly a little irritated that he's so tethered to his parents that he can't live and let live. Should I find a new place? Should I suck it up? I really don't want to move. Everything else about the place is pretty good, if not perfect. Further complicating matters is the fact that I can't drive, ever. It's not as though I can hop in a car and go wherever I want. I'm thinking this may just have to be the price of the place, but if anyone's got ideas how to navigate these choppy waters, I'd really appreciate it. I have signed no lease, and have only paid the first month's rent. There's supposed to be a forthcoming lease, but I've not seen it. I feel like I shouldn't rock the boat here, but I'm not sure how to handle such a weird situation. Thanks in advance.