How to get an ex off the mind.
January 17, 2013 8:51 AM Subscribe
How much thinking about your ex is too much, and how do you control it?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (13 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
Simple question, but it doesn't feel so simple. I'm very happy with my girlfriend. I'm the happiest I've even been in a relationship, and it's the healthiest relationship I've had. The times I'm most content is when I'm laying in bed with her, just talking. This isn't about her, at least that my conscious mind knows of.
And yet, I think about my ex a lot more than I think I should. About little things, like her smile, or hugging her. The goofy stuff she does. Or I suppose, did, since I haven't seen her in a year. Last night I even had (another) dream about her.
I don't want to be with my ex, at least consciously. It was an awful relationship. We're friendly now, and agree that even though we enjoy each other's company we were bad at dating each other.
So my question is: Does this mean I'm a bad girlfriend, or I don't love my current partner? And how can I get my ex out of my thoughts.
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