Help for the husband of an IVF patient?
November 28, 2012 8:38 AM Subscribe
My wife and I are trying to get pregnant. We've resorted to IVF (in vitro fertilization). But meanwhile, my wife is going to pieces, "terrified" that she might never have a natural child. Anyone been through this? Any advice?
posted by Anonymousness to human relations (28 answers total) 7 users marked this as a favorite
That's the word she keeps using: "terrified." It makes her stay up all night, it makes her cry at the sight of a pregnant woman, it makes her avoid seeing friends and family. She says the worst part of it is that she will blame herself for waiting so long (she's 37). I try to tell her that the chances of IVF succeeding at her age are very good, but she can't stop fixating on the not-insignificant chance it will not work out.
Has anyone been where she, or I, have been? Is there anything you could suggest that might make this very difficult situation more bearable (for her, I'm not worried about me)?