All I wanted was a Pepsi, and she wouldn't give it to me.
November 28, 2012 8:51 AM Subscribe
Why do waitresses always assume I want diet soda?
posted by anonymous to human relations (80 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
When I'm out at a restaurant and order a soda, I am often (4 out of 5 times) asked, "Did you mean diet?" and to clarify if I wanted a diet or regular. This happens at all sorts of places, from casual places to upscale.
I understand that a lot of women drink diet, but more often than not, even if I order a normal soda, they bring me diet anyhow. Recently not only did the waitress bring me a diet, when I sent it back, she later came back and asked if I needed a refill on my diet soda. I kept correcting her, but she mentioned it yet a few more times.
I had another waitress in a different place that said, "Oh, you mean diet, right?" and then stared me down, as if asking for a regular soda was illegal, and she asked again, "Diet?"
This has happened to me for the past ten years, with frequency. No matter if I am overweight or thin.
The second half of this problem is that I've suffered from eating disorders, depression, and very low self esteem. The waitress who kept bringing and insisting on refilling my drink with diet really ruined my meal because by the end I was afraid to even eat my food because I felt like she was judging me the entire time. Part of me feeling better about myself has been being able to actual order what I'd like at a restaurant, and if I want a damn coke, shouldn't I be able to do that without a hassle? I don't drink alcohol or tea. I really just enjoy the occasional soda when I'm eating out.
Yes, I am in therapy, so please don't recommend that.
My questions are: Is this normal for waitresses to insist/ question/continuously force me to drink diet soda? Is there some implication behind it?
What are some better ways to handle myself when they seem to get aggressive about giving me diet? I struggle with at which point is it reasonable for me to get irritated and speak to them or the manager.