Moving on from not-quite-the-one
November 1, 2012 12:55 PM Subscribe
Help me move on from a relationship where you care for each other and nothing was wrong, but it wasn't right either. Anecdotes about finding greater happiness later are especially welcome.
posted by lacedcoffee to human relations (13 answers total) 21 users marked this as a favorite
Not much more to explain. Was in a very nice, comfortable relationship but neither of us felt that spark. I'm not even talking about that elusive limerance, but rather that energy and excitement you feel when you're with someone that you are totally in sync with. Something was just missing, but so much was right, and that makes it bittersweet. I don't believe in "the One", but surely there must be more to love than what I was feeling. I'm scared that I'm hoping for a feeling that will never come, and this is maximum happiness there is for me. It makes me want to settle. Have people ever thought that, only end up in a situation that's better than they could have imagined? How do you not settle for good enough? Thanks in advance.
Oh, and please no telling me that perhaps this relationship should be given another chance. He feels that something is missing, too, except he has a much stronger conviction than I have that there could be greater happiness out there.