Living a more entrenched life
October 17, 2012 8:30 AM Subscribe
What does it mean to be committed to your life? How can you become committed to yourself?
posted by so much modern time to Grab Bag (14 answers total) 18 users marked this as a favorite
I'm going through what seems to be a long transition in my life (you can check my previous questions if you like), and I'm finally at a stage where I'm relatively stable: post-living abroad, I've found a job, moved to the Bay Area, and actually making a decent amount of money with benefits.
But, I'm still trying to work out a few key things: identity, career, and what "settling down" means to me. When I was reading Mindy Kaling's book, she talks about committment to yourself and to your life in a way that quite resonated with me:
"I'm not talking about commitment to romantic relationships. I'm talking about commitment to things: houses, jobs, neighborhoods. Having a job that requires a contract. Paying a mortgage. I think when men hear that women want a commitment, they think it means commitment to a romantic relationship, but that's not it. It's a commitment to not floating around anymore. I want a guy who is entrenched in his own life. Entrenched is awesome."
She talks about what commitment means to her, but I've found it difficult to commit to staying in one place after an adult life of swanning about. Friendships I don't have a problem committing to, but long-term romantic relationships have been more difficult.
At the same time, I would like to be committed to my own life. How do I do that?
(Also want to point out here that I just started therapy, but I also wanted to bring this up to the insightful readers of AskMeFi.)