Girl, you're a woman ALREADY so stop lazing around!
August 29, 2012 12:04 PM Subscribe
Help me be a grown-up. I am turning 25 soon, and I'm beginning to realize that I don't really enjoy living like an irresponsible kid anymore!
posted by showbiz_liz to Grab Bag (37 answers total) 60 users marked this as a favorite
So I've been out of college for almost two years, and working a full-time job for about a year (though I was only made permanent and given benefits a few months ago). And in most respects, I have not changed my lifestyle all that much.
I still live paycheck to paycheck, even though with my recent permanent job status I could afford to save $100-$300 a month if I was careful. I pay my loans on time, but I have a (small but irritating) credit card balance which I could have paid off by now if I'd been careful. I don't pursue my creative (and potentially monetarily rewarding) hobbies like writing and jewelry-making as much as I'd like to, because even though I like doing that stuff, it's so much easier to fuck around on the internet and/or go out with friends four times a week. I don't do time-consuming educational things I know I'd enjoy doing, things like re-learn math or learn a new language. I don't make an effort to get out and meet new and interesting people. I order out when I could cook. I procrastinate at work more than I ought to. I haven't made serious steps toward a fulfilling career, because my job isn't THAT bad and I still totally have time to figure out what I want to do! Only... do I?
I have been working on improving a lot of things. I've gone for medical checkups, which I used to avoid, and I'm even going to see a dermatologist about my adult acne (I've put this off for years and years). I've been working on not being a total slob- my floor has been clean for weeks! I've made my bed almost every day this month, which is unheard of! There are only like three dishes in the sink right now! I'm slowly working on changing my wardrobe from "broke student" to "hip 20something with a desk job". I started working out (have fallen off the horse on this one somewhat, but I'm getting back on it now). All of these changes are very recent. I never did ANY of this stuff in college!
Basically... I want to be a grown-up. I want to be someone who is considered responsible and capable both by by peers and by older adults, and I want to be always moving forward with my life- maybe not on a straight path, but always learning and growing and adding to my bank of valuable experiences (as well as to my actual bank!). And I want to be someone who it would be easy to share a life with. Who wants to get married to someone who can't even remember to clean the tub or save for a rainy day?
This is not to say I want to stop having fun, going out with my friends, being goofy and silly, and occasionally eating nothing but fancy cheese for dinner. Rather, I think I would enjoy all that stuff even more if I had a more stable, comfortable base for my life to rest on.
I'm pretty sure that, as quarter-life crises go, this is pretty mild. But still- what advice can you guys give me? How did you grown up?