First Love Issues
August 23, 2012 9:45 AM Subscribe
Why do I often dream of my ex?
posted by Asian_Hunnie to Society & Culture (28 answers total) 6 users marked this as a favorite
I'm a 23 year old and have already moved on to a BETTER relationship with someone I love. We've been together a year but I occasionally dream of my ex.
We were friends when we were 12 for a few years and we ended up dating for almost 6 years. We were each other's first everything.We grew up a lot together, we went through long distance for 2 years, and me supporting him in the military. We broke up due to the distance and then I avoided him for a few months to "heal" and he ended up wanting me back but did no action to fix things. So I didn't see the point of going back to something broken if he wasn't willing to fix on it.
Then I met someone else and we seemed like a good match. Unlike my ex, we get along, have the same views, he is understanding, and I trust him. My ex and I weren't the best of couples because we had differences and he would always make me cry and be jealous because we just had a different view of things. He's a good friend for me but not boyfriend.
My ex got a new girlfriend and within 3 months they got engaged before he was deployed. He told me he couldn't talk to me anymore because of her and cut off allll contact. Deleted me from his Facebook, deleted all of our pictures, everything. It was like he didn't existed.
It's been almost 2 years now and I still miss him. I think I might even still love him. I don't want to be with him, I don't wish for things to work out as a couple between us, but I just really miss him as a person. He was a big part of my life. I don't want to be FRIENDS but it's just sad that I'm BANNED from his life. I can't even say "Hi, how's life?"
I constantly dream that I'm friends with him and his fiance. I dream that we meet again and we're okay, and he'll pursue someone else. I dream that he's in trouble and I'll help him.
I dream of him probably 1-2x a month. I don't really think of him a lot like today.