I need eight days a week. Or more.
August 7, 2012 4:01 PM Subscribe
I don't understand how people with homes, jobs, kids, families, hobbies, televisions and pets DO everything. What am I doing wrong? Help me make the most of every minute!
posted by thrasher to Grab Bag (54 answers total) 69 users marked this as a favorite
I live with my boyfriend. We have no kids, no pets, no mortgage and no television. We don't party or travel and we don't have much of a social circle. Still, there never seems to be enough time for everything! The following numbers are all in rough, average terms:
Because of work schedules, we only ever get 6-7 hours of sleep a night (often even less). I commute about an hour a day round trip. I rarely work more than 8.5 hours/day (including 30 minutes for lunch). His work schedule will vary widely, from four 8 hour shifts one week, to six 11 hour shifts the next. He does the cooking, I do the cleaning. We spend 1-2 hours a day on breakfast and dinner together. I spend 1-2 hours a day on chores (laundry, dishes, basic cleaning, bills/paperwork) and generally clean more (vacuum, scrub the kitchen/bath) only when we have company, which happens usually once a month. We walk for about an hour roughly 3 times a week. We probably average an hour of sex each day. We see friends/family once or twice a week, very occasionally go to concerts, very sporadically work together on an ongoing hobby/project we enjoy (if we get to it for a couple hours every other week it's a lot).
I always feel shortchanged on sleeping, exercise, sex, socializing and our project - those things are always jockeying with each other for our time and attention. So I'm always short on sleep, sex and exercise, only get a chance to see one or two friends/family members each week (and they and I BOTH feel shortchanged on that), and I often think forlornly about the project.
I don't spend any time at all writing in my journal, or practicing my drums, or reading books, or planning and shopping for healthy meals.... and I really need to and want to.
And then there's a long list of things, mostly small projects/chores that would make my life better that I've been meaning to get to... for NEARLY THREE YEARS. (buy new car stereo speakers and have them installed, fix the car antenna, get a few pieces of clothing custom-made, replace the flash tube in my camera's speedlight, learn and practice more skills for work...)
Is it normal to always feel like there aren't enough hours in the day and there's a million things you just can't get to? What are your best methods for managing your time the most effectively?
(now if you'll excuse me I'll be at a birthday dinner for the next three hours...)