How do you give clear signals that it's just not gonna happen?
June 30, 2012 8:03 AM Subscribe
How do you send clear signals when someone is flirty with you, but you are not interested, yet still like them as a person?
posted by abirdinthehand to Human Relations (13 answers total) 14 users marked this as a favorite
I have no idea how to do this and generally just get uncomfortable and 'act normally' which I'm often comes across as interest since I am a friendly and smiley sort of person.
This issue has been arising with coworkers and acquaintances, not people I consider friends really, but people I am friendly with and want to feel comfortable around.
I know how to deal with creeps and I know how to deal with mutual attraction, but I feel that I never seem to get this unrequited attraction right and often unnecessarily confuse people. It's both because I'm slow to pick up on that they are flirting with me, because I don't see them 'in that way,' and because I just don't know how to navigate it without behaving as though they are a stranger that approached me in a bar or something along those lines.
So any tips? Once you start seeing clear communicated signals of attraction from someone you associate with, how do you show clear signs that it's just not gonna happen?