Help me stop thinking about hot girls
April 29, 2012 10:14 PM Subscribe
I get obsessed with pretty girls to the point that they get distracting. How do I stop and does this mean something more? (I am female.)
posted by ichomp to human relations (26 answers total) 8 users marked this as a favorite
I've noticed that not only do I look up pictures of female celebrities and models a lot, I also think about them at the frequency that one thinks about a crush. I didn't think of it more than a fan girl thing-- I knew that women like Scarlett Johansson (conventionally attractive) have both male and female fans. (I'd also be obsessed with models like Karlie Kloss.)
Last year, I became a big Korean pop fan and was into all the girl groups-- specifically Girls' Generation, which is known for having beautiful girls (well.. most Korean female celebrities are.) I would think about them A LOT-- so much that it became distracting and one of the only things I talked about with friends and new people I meet. Sometimes I'd also obsessively look at the facebook photos of my girl friends (especially in clubbing outfits/ dresses). These are all distracting when I should be concentrating on work.
My question is-- how do I stop? And is this normal at all? I feel sometimes feel skeevy looking at all these photos, and the thing that gets me is sometimes I'd think, "I can see guys wanting to be with her, she's so feminine/cute!" I feel shallow essentially checking girls out and I would like to stop doing this, because while I keep doing it, in a sober/ clear-headed moment this makes me skin scrawl and is not something I'd like my friends/family to know I do. And as a girl, I don't want to be more interested in girls because they are wearing skimpy outfits/ look hot-- I would be thinking like a teenage boy and that's NOT me.
How do I stop my creepy behavior/ thoughts? Does this mean any more than being a fangirl for female celebrities/ pretty girls?
(mods, I may want to anonymize this later)