Where should we live?
June 28, 2012 9:25 AM Subscribe
Help us decide where to live - options inside!
posted by ohsnapdragon to grab bag (13 answers total)
Problem: It is time for my wife and I (two women in our twenties) to decide on a city to settle down in. We want to buy a house and have babies within a few years. I have equivalent job leads in three cities we are considering; my wife can work from anywhere. Assume I have a job offer in all three places (obviously this won't definitely happen but it's a good possibility, and due to my wife's income, it is not necessary for me to have a job before we move.) We would ideally love to be settled in a new home (rented) before Christmas.
Priorities: Decent cost of living. Good career prospects for when I want to change jobs/in case I lose one. (I am in advertising/design.) A strong neighborhood/community feel. Liberal/down with gay families. Relaxed, comfortable lifestyle.
Option 1: Live in Decatur, GA (or Oakhurst), work in Atlanta, GA. We have both lived here.
Pros: Very good career opportunities. Lots and lots of lesbian families. Good schools.
Cons: Horrible traffic/commute. Highest real estate costs of the three. We like Decatur and surrounding area okay, but dislike most of Atlanta. Longish drive from my family, a plane ride from hers.
Option 2: Durham, NC (possibly working in Raleigh, NC.) I have lived nearby; she has never lived in this state.
Pros: Decent job opportunities. Close to my family. Fairly liberal/diverse and supportive of the gays. Low cost of living. My home state, so I love and miss it.
Cons: Commuting to Raleigh would suck if I can't find a job in Durham. Most of the schools are bad, so we'd be relying on the lottery/magnet schools. I've never lived here, so I don't know first hand what the cons really are (though I've done a lot of research.)
Option 3: Kansas City, MO (eventually Prairie Village, KS or similar.) We have both lived here.
Pros: Close to her family. Decent job opportunities. Low cost of living. Good commute. Good schools (once we buy in the suburbs.)
Cons: Least gay-friendly. We'd have to buy in the suburbs to get good schools, however there are a couple that I don't mind. I hate winter and there are few areas to vacation in without flying.
We have been talking about this extensively and just keep going around in circles. There are so many factors to consider with all three of them. And now it is really time to decide. We can always change our minds later, but of course I'd like to get it right on the first try and avoid the hassle and expense of moving again.
I'd like your feedback on which of these factors you think should be most important, which you'd choose, any other factors we should be considering, etc. If anyone is familiar with these cities or has lived in one of them, feel free to weigh in with your personal opinion as well.
I know having a job is important and believe me it's a big consideration but please try to limit answers like "wait and see what offers you get" because it is actually not our top priority at the moment - quality of life is.