Am I overthinking this?
June 17, 2012 5:53 PM Subscribe
Coworker and I are spending time together outside of work, hitting it off, and I think she's interested. She's also on the verge of getting a divorce. Am I setting myself up for something bad?
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She and her husband have been separated for a year, and seem to be going toward an uncomplicated divorce, for the sake of their young child. She hasn't dated in the interim, because she wanted to be sure that a divorce is what she wanted. She and I have been spending lots of time together over the past couple weeks, but so far, it's been as friends.
That's changing, though. We've been sharing texts about how much we like each other, and how much fun we have together. It's obvious what comes next.
I'm interested, but there are some things going through my head...
* Am I just setting myself up to be her first rebound?
* Is it possible that I'm some kind of surrogate man for her to talk to and trust, and that deep inside, she's not ready for a long term relationship?
* How do I have a tactful conversation stating that "yes, I'm interested, but I'm concerned that you may not be ready to be in another serious relationship so soon".
* Should I just relax and not worry about it?