She wants to be EXCLUSIVE? What a weirdo!
April 15, 2012 10:36 AM Subscribe
I feel like a freak for wanting a long-term relationship.
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (31 answers total) 17 users marked this as a favorite
Brooklyn, early 20s, female. Is there any way to make it explicit FROM THE START that I am not looking for my 14th casual hookup, but for an actual boyfriend, without making the guys run for the hills before even giving me a shot? Because I fear that I will come off as a crazed husband hunter, when all I really want is to have someone to hang out with a lot and say 'I love you' to.
I feel like it's this weird kinky perversion to want to, like, date exclusively and get married and have kids in this city. Like it's more normal to be in a bunch of casual open relationships than it is to actually want to fall in love with someone. And I can't figure out how to assert my desire for a real relationship without seeming... presumptuous. Like, I don't want to tell a first date "I'm looking for something serious," because I barely know him and maybe I don't want something serious with HIM, but he'll think I am latching onto him like a crazy barnacle and will poke holes in his condoms...
Well you get the picture. How do I start having real relationships again?