The Childless Dating Those With Children
January 17, 2012 12:47 PM Subscribe
I'm currently seeing a man who has children, and this is my first experience with such a situation. It's new, so I've only just started asking the important questions, i.e., why did you divorce in the first place, how long have you been divorced, how is your relationship with your ex, are you both at peace with how it ended? etc. Everything seems to check out so far, but I know it would be foolish to think I won't encounter some unique problems if things get serious.
posted by CXXVII to Human Relations (27 answers total) 7 users marked this as a favorite
I know single fathers can potentially come with an incredible amount of baggage, and others might be far less problematic.. it's all relative to their situations. The main concerns I had in the beginning were: What if she's still in love with him and freaks out in a jealous rage over me? What if he didn't learn from his mistakes? What if his children treat me horribly? Is he emotionally intelligent? Will he make me feel like a priority? The list goes on. I have never been married nor do I have children of my own.
I'm looking for some advice from single fathers who date, as well as advice from women who have dated single fathers. I am not interested in hearing from those who have a snide remark and nothing valuable to offer. I like this guy, and he seems to be put together.
What sort of probelms have you encountered when dating someone with children? How did you deal with those issues?
What problems, as a single parent, have you encountered while dating a childless person? How did you handle them?
Some details about Beau:
-He married young
-The marriage lasted for ten years
-He's been divorced for three years
-He has two children under the age of ten
-He is financially stable