Female premature orgasm
September 12, 2011 2:19 PM Subscribe
Any advice or tips for a woman
who orgasms prematurely?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (17 answers total) 13 users marked this as a favorite
I'm a straight mid-twenties woman, and basically, I orgasm too quickly when I'm having sex with my boyfriend. As a woman, I know this is sort of a "luxury" problem for women, but there it is. It's with oral, but especially with penetrative sex (anal is the "worst", ie. I come the quickest). Vibrators get me off in under a minute so I try not to use them during partnered sex.
When I'm aroused, I usually climax immediately, sometimes making intercourse last like 2 minutes, 7 if I'm really diligent about changing to positions I like less. I try to slow down, change posiions, etc - but when it has felt good in that way, it's like a point of no return. I always sort of convince myself in the moment "this feels so good, I will definitely be able to continue after coming this time!" - but right after orgasm, I feel completely non-sexual and continuing is the last thing I want to do. Then, either I continue having sex anyway until my partner comes (but that feels kind of uncomfortable, and sort of ruins my orgasm "feeling good want to cuddle glow"), or b) we stop having sex, and my boyfriend doesn't come (bummer for him). What works best is either me finishing him off orally or coming at the same time - but still I would like the sex to last longer.
It's been the same with previous partners, so it's not like I'm with some kind of super sex machine. This only happens when I'm aroused - if I try to have sex unaroused, I can last longer, but then I don't enjoy the sex at all, so that's not really a solution either. (For me, being aroused is mostly a mental thing about being in the right state of mind - I don't necessarily need a lot of foreplay. I also try to avoid too much foreplay sometimes, so as not to come too quickly and not even get to the penetrative sex part.)
So, I know multiple orgasms is a real thing for some women. Is that something I could train myself to achieve? Does anyone have the same "problem" and have any tips or ideas for what I could try - either for stretching out the length of intercourse or being able to go again? Thanks in advance, girls and guys.