I need love.
August 26, 2011 8:41 AM Subscribe
How do I adjust to not needing affection and validation all the time?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (16 answers total) 34 users marked this as a favorite
Male, married, two kids. I'm a very affectionate person, but I've found that I need lots of care and feeding in return. I like to hear that I'm loved and needed. And I love getting affection and physical attention - holding hands, kisses, etc. My wife, on the other hand, not so much in giving or receiving. She loves me, but just isn't like me.
This isn't a "how do I fix my relationship" thread. We're different, I get that. But I feel like my needs are causing issues and arguments. I'm sure this must be some deep self-esteem issue, but I don't how to become more confident about myself so that I don't need this constant validation. What's the solution?