How can I delay female orgasm?
January 10, 2011 3:14 PM Subscribe
SexFilter: I am a woman who is orgasming too soon, too powerfully, such that it's interfering with my boyfriend's ability to do the same. What do we do?
posted by anonymous to Health & Fitness (12 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
I'm in a pretty new relationship, and we're having a pretty absurd problem, one which is entirely new for both of us: during penetrative sex, I'm orgasming really quickly (generally within five minutes), I'm orgasming multiple times once I start, and my contractions are evidently "like the kick of a mule."
It's this last part that's the problem--my boyfriend has to fight to stay inside me when I'm orgasming, and this makes it harder for him to maintain his erection, which makes it much harder for him to actually finish during penetrative sex. The problem is not that I don't want to keep going or that it hurts for me to come a lot--the problem is entirely that my contractions make it hard for him to keep going, and anything that speeds his own orgasm up seems to speed mine up even faster, which is a problem.
I'm happy to finish him off orally if need be, but we'd really like to both be able to orgasm during penetrative sex. We both realize that this is an absurd and kind of amazing problem to have, and don't have much of an idea of how to tackle it--do you have tips about how I can delay my orgasm such that he comes first, or make mine weaker? Perhaps tips for other positions we can try that will make him not have to fight so hard to stay inside when I start coming, or things he could do? Thanks in advance for your ideas!