best man problems
December 4, 2010 7:16 PM Subscribe
Best man for my wedding is causing some problems. What's the best way to deal with the situation?
posted by ljs30 to human relations (26 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
My wedding is in two weeks. Right now I'm having some problems with my best man. He's going through some difficult times in his life. He ran into financial woes and was forced to move out of town and go live back home with his family. He's had a rough time and I understand that he needs some support. That being said, so far he has never made any initiative to make any contribution to my wedding. He hasn't come up with any ideas for the bachelor party, he hasn't helped plan anything, suggest anything, and in general he has shown no interest in my wedding. Recently I've tried contacting him just to see how things are working out back home and he really hasn't responded to me. I've been there for him over the last several years dealing with break ups, money troubles, job troubles...I always support him. Another thing, since he moved back home he will be flying back in to town for the wedding. He has asked if he can stay with my fiance and I while he's in town until after the wedding. It would be the 5 days leading up to our wedding. And he'd be leaving the next day. On the one hand I know he can't afford a hotel, but on the other hand there are a lot of people flying in for the wedding and staying at hotels and they can't afford it either. I've already told him it's ok if he crashes here, but it's really not. It feels intruisive and it feels unfair to my other guests who are all staying other places. It also seems unfair to my fiance. What should I do here? Should I just let it slide because he's going through tough times and he's my best man? Should I let him stay at our place? Should I even keep him as the best man? My fiance seems fine with him staying here for the week before the wedding. But she's too nice to say otherwise. Any advice here is very much appreciated.