Can I ask for oral sex without ASKING for oral sex?
July 25, 2010 11:50 AM Subscribe
Is there a delicate way to suggest he perform oral sex without making him feel obligated?
posted by anonymous to human relations (32 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
I've been seeing my current guy for a few months. The sex is awesome... but he's never gone down on me. This is something that I know from past partners I really, really enjoy. I am happy to go down on him and have done it many, many times without being asked. I definitely don't see this as a "tit for tat" kind of thing, and I don't think he "owes" me anything -- in fact, that's where the problem comes in.
My SO is a super generous, sincere, ultra sweet guy, and in non-sexual matters he is always eager to please and will take just about any hint to help me out. I emphatically would never want to receive oral sex from someone if he or she felt grossed out or uninterested in doing it, and I'm concerned that if I express a desire for it, my SO will go ahead and do it even if it's not his cup of tea. Worse, I don't want to make him feel bad about not doing it. It's not a deal breaker for me... just something that would be nice to have if he's willing.
Should I just accept that if he hasn't tried to do it of his own accord by now that he probably doesn't like it? Since I'm anonymous on this and won't have the chance to stick up for myself later, I'll mention now that I am a clean person and keep the area trimmed and neat.