Help me think of my daughter as my son
July 8, 2010 4:23 PM Subscribe
My daughter wants to be my son, and I'm okay with that. But...
posted by patheral to Human Relations (40 answers total) 15 users marked this as a favorite
It's gonna take some time to wrap my head around calling her 'him' and getting used to the idea. If I ever can. I mean, I still call my 32 year old baby brother my baby brother.
And how do I get used to the idea? I mean, she's 22 years old, and she told me this about two years ago. She still goes by her given name, except online, and she hasn't made any changes because we're all poor and it's difficult for her to move forward with it.
She doesn't like loose clothes so she wears skin tight clothes and, to be honest - she's got a hot bod (for a woman). She doesn't like her body, but she hates loose clothing more. *shrug* Anyway, it's hard to identify her as a man when her boobs are sticking out. Plus, she's got child-bearing hips (which she blames me for. Sorry, it's genetic).
Anyway, she wants to get started by purchasing a binder (Bonus - can anyone recommend a good binder? I don't want her to hurt herself with a bad one) and eventually having breast reduction surgery. She says that she doesn't need to have complete reconstruction as long as she can "legally take her shirt off in public" and be seen as a man. Since she's not interested in sex (with either gender) I can see her point.
So, I'm looking for pointers from people who have made the transition or who have family members - especially children - who've made the transition - how can I take my daughter of 22 years and turn her (in my mind) into my son??? I'm not looking on pointers about how to be supportive of her - I'm always supportive of my kids (unless what they're doing is illegal). I'm asking about how to change *my* way of thinking - is there any way to make it easier? or will she always be my little girl?