Support, not commitment, or something
November 9, 2011 7:47 PM Subscribe
I think my dotted-line boss is going to come out to me as a transgendered person. The idea of introducing gender and sexuality into professional relationships is anathema to me. I will not deny her any support. I am genderqueer but don't trouble to make it obvious at work: work is a place I go to be engaged and interested, not a place for emotional entanglements. So what do I do?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (24 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
This lady is really fun, really cool, and transgender, but she doesn't know I know. She also doesn't know I identify as GQ. I think sexuality issues just don't belong in the work place: never ever have I dated or even discussed issues of gender or sexuality at work, changing the subject if it came up. If my suspicions are right, this is going to change. I want to a) support her; b) make clear that she is welcome to come out; c) that I am proud of her, d) that it is a situation that has nothing to do with me personally and won't at least as long as I work there. Maybe I am asking what a straight person would do to support someone coming out without committing myself, but that seems like a cop-out and I think I'd be ashamed to do that. There is a very delicate line to walk here and I lack the subtlety to do it. Please, advise me. I would not hurt this person, whom in a non-work situation I would consider a sister to celebrate and welcome, just because it's work: best case scenario is she is welcomed and validated.