I need help with personal grooming. NSFW and possibly TMI:
Mid-twenties female here. I have some problems grooming my lady parts. Specifically, I can't seem to do anything, shave or wax, without getting terrible razor burns, rashes, or ingrown hair. I've tried trimming with electric clippers/razors, but my hair is too dark and the stubble is obvious. I've tried bleaching, but that irritated the skin and obviously it doesn't remove the hair at all.
My preferred method is waxing. The pain is bearable, and I love how smooth the non-blemished skin is. I wax my eyebrows without any problems, but my skin is generally combination/sensitive everywhere on my body. To be clear, I don't normally do a full Brazilian. I tend to go for the "deep bikini", which means they shape the hair in front and get as close to your bits as possible on the side.
I've tried exfoliating daily (not immediately after shaving/waxing, I hear that irritates things more), and I've used three different products over the years and none of them have helped. The products I've used:
(This one burnt like hell and was torture on my sensitive skin.)
(I've used this one for a long time, but it hasn't done squat. It didn't irritate like Tend did, so there was no point in stopping.)
(This one didn't do anything either, and I stopped using it a while ago.)
I've even tried icing my crotch after getting waxed. I take a pain reliever about 30mins-1 hour before waxing (usually Advil or Aleve, neither seems to work better than the other), and my salon uses the "blue" wax, which is made for sensitive skin. It grabs only the hair and don't require strips.
Despite all the advice I've been given from my salon professionals, I can't seem to get rid of the irritation. If you have ANY advice for me, no matter how insane, please share. I'm set on keeping my bikini area clear, so giving up isn't really in the playbook. I'm also aware that I could try laser treatments, but they're a bit out of the budget right now.
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