He lives on the west coast. I live on the east coast. Do I try or do I move on?
May 27, 2010 9:10 AM Subscribe
He lives on the west coast. I live on the east coast. Its the most passionate relationship I have ever been in, except we never talk when we're apart. Do I try or do I move on?
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He was a speaker at a conference I produced a few years back. Ever since, whenever we are in the same city (approx 3 times a year), we go out, have a great time, have great sex, and then have to say goodbye. The thing is, we hardly talk when we are apart. An email or call every few months, but that's it. He is busy. I am busy. I was fine with it being casual until recently.
Despite dating other men in the mean time, I am always thinking about him. I miss him. And the more we are apart, the more I feel myself growing attached. He is extremely successful in the field of which we both work. Its a turn on, but work has become a constant reminder of him and what we have. No one I meet lives up to the standard he has set. And each time we see each other, I feel our connection getting stronger. I think he has felt it too.
My feelings for him are exhausting- especially when I don't know what he is thinking. I want to approach him about a long distance relationship, but I have no idea how. And I'm scared he will say no. There is a good chance I will be moving to the west coast in a year for my career. Should I wait to try it out for real? The last thing I want to do is scare him away. My usual rational and practicality is really being pushed to the wayside in this situation.